You looking out for you is the bottom line of health and wellness.
A doctor can tell you what to do, a nutritionist can tell you what to eat, a personal trainer can tell you how to work out and a yogi can tell you how to meditate.
But it is Ultimately up to you to adhere to what you learn, follow through with it and be consistent.
No one is going to do it for you and it can be tough at times, especially faced with the everyday pressures of life. Dealing with everyday struggles and caring for other loved ones can put you in a position to forego your own health and sanity.
This is why it is so important to stop and check in on yourself.
You’ve got to ask the questions you ask others, to yourself.
“How are you feeling?”
“Are you taking care of yourself?”
“What do you need”?
“Why don’t you take a few days to reset and regroup?”
These are the things we say to friends and family that we care about, but never to ourselves.
I’ve seen situations where one person is looking out for everyone but themselves, no one asks the person doing the providing if they are ok or do they have what they need, and the provider ends up falling to pieces.
It’s an easy thing to get swept up in, especially if you have a big heart. But you’ve got to redirect the love of that big heart you have back to yourself.
You will only be as happy as the love you have for yourself will allow you to be. Self love is crucial for your inner peace, your dealings with others and how you govern your life.
If you don’t have self love, your health suffers. If your health suffers, it’s just a matter of time before everything start going out of balance. Self love is the oil in the engine that fuels your decisions.
Drug abuse = No Self love
No Exercise= No Self Love
Poor diet= No Self Love
Negative Self Talk=No Self Love
Self Love leads to self care. You have to start Giving A Shit about yourself. Do you like who and what you see in the mirror? If not, change it. Do you like the life you are living? If not, change it. And self care is where you start.
Negative moments usually hit me right before I go to sleep and 30 seconds after I wake up. This happens when:
- I wasn’t as productive as I know I could’ve been
- There is something I need to get done that I’ve been putting off
Those are my 2 demons that rob me, and they usually tie back to an aspect of self love and self care (skipping the gym, delaying a task).
Be a better friend to yourself. Comfort and console yourself, when needed, the same way you would comfort and console a friend in distress.
Take yourself to a movie, go on walks alone, read books on independence and peaceful solitude, pat yourself on the back, tell yourself “I love you”, write special encouraging notes and stick them around in different places.
Fill your life with self love and self care.
What are some ways you check in on yourself and do a mental inventory?
Let me know!